You know the feeling.  You’re finally about to get started and then suddenly your palms get sweaty, your stomach hurts, and all you can think about is how you are NOT ready.  We’ve all been there, and in fact that’s where I am right now.

I’ve been looking forward to finally writing this blog after what seemed like the endless hurdles of getting a domain, setting up the site, and learning how to use it.  I put aside this morning to actually start writing, happily anticipating it all week.  But as I sit at the keyboard, nothing but doubt comes to mind.  I go back to read my “WHY” section and all I can think of is the “WHY NOTS.”  Who do you think you are? You won’t be able to keep it up.  You should know more about this before you begin.

First steps are daunting.  It means making a commitment and actually putting effort into your stated desire, which creates vulnerability.  If I actually do something then I might fail or disappoint.  And even if by some chance I am successful, I might not have what it takes to keep it up.  Taking this first step is uncomfortable and scary.

Even though fear is just a feeling and self doubts are just thoughts, they can be powerful barriers to that first step.  They cause us to postpone our effort to a time when we think we’ll be prepared or at least “more ready.”  Will that day ever come?  Perhaps.  I could learn more about blogging, take another writing class, or create a better plan.  But I could also just get started, focusing less on the “what ifs” and more on the efforts I’ve made so far.

New research on what promotes change (specifically in the field of Motivational Interviewing) has found that the old method of weighing the positives and negatives of a situation to facilitate change may not be as effective as we had once thought.  By listing our reasons “why not,” we give these factors more credibility as barriers and entrench them in our minds.  By actively focusing our mind to what steps we can take, we essentially sidestep barriers and decrease the power these “why nots” hold over us.

What I find in working with most people when facing a first step is that the first step is not actually the first step at all, anyhow.  In fact, they have been taking many small steps for quite some time and have indeed covered a lot of ground.  Usually by the time we take that “first step”, our journey is already heading in the direction we want to go.

I’ve never written a blog before, but I love to write.  I may not have useful things to say to everyone every time I post, but I have a lot of years of experience and a perspective that may be of use to someone at some time.  I have a journal full of over 60 topic ideas I have been jotting down.  So despite my fear and the many things I could have done to better prepare, I just created my first blog post.  And later this week I will face it all over again when I create my first second post.

Thanks for changing with me.